a little bit disgusted: a mini-post

there is a couple sitting in uj's office right now.  clients.  asking what the financial benefits and drawbacks are of marriage.  basically the guy is saying that there are no incentives for men to get married.  and the woman is the type of woman who has to come in and waste her accountant's time asking if her pension is enough reason to stay with her current employer.

(they have been here for over an hour)

how about, get married if you want to get married.  and don't, if you don't.  i am pretty sure i'd be appalled (appalled!) if b had or hadn't married me based on financial incentives.  based on social security tax.  based on other things that matter so so so much less than, oh, let's say, love.  happiness.  contentment.  friendship.  i will ask the question although i already know the answer.  are people really this shallow?  of course they are.


and that pisses me off.  doesn't it you as well?  if it doesn't, that's ok.  there is a lot of me that is quite old-fashioned.  daydreaming about a marriage like that of my grandparents.  life-long.  hard work yet glamorous at the same time.  rewarding and fulfilling above all other things.  there is also some of me that is not old-fashioned.  the part of me that bedded that handsome husb of mine early in our courtship (early).  and lived in sinful bliss much before we were to be wed.  so i don't think i'm particularly prudish.  or disillusioned.  and i'm certainly NOT saying marriage is for everyone.  but if it IS for you, shouldn't it be for reasons other than money?  or taxes?  or benefits?  *sigh*