good night, sunday
it has been a few days longer than i like it since my last post. perhaps because i have had very little to nothing to say. (and maybe a little more than perhaps.) but now it is sunday night, my husby's asleep, and i have already picked a font AND a font color. so here we go.
of note, we were lucky enough to meet up with the carvers on saturday for some casual wine tasting out in temecula. could it have been a prettier day? most likely not. it was gorgeous. like. drop dead gorgeous. sunny and warm and not a single speck of smog in sight. (apparently alliteration is in abundance...oh, i crack myself up.) so we wine tasted, talked, laughed, etc throughout the day. i felt my spirit was a bit renewed as both brian and jen are intelligent, witty people AND are a wonderful married couple. since stupidity is so rampant these days, intelligence is like diamonds. well, in a way. a less shiny, less tangible way. and, ok, intelligence is a super dorky accessory but i'm not going there. where was i...AND they are a wonderful couple who truly love each other. there are a few of those in the world. we are lucky to have one of these said couples as close friends.
let me explain, perhaps, why this is nicest. because after spending the day together, i don't have to go on and on and on about how miserable they are, or how wrong they are for each other, or how many problems they have. at the end of the day, i say things like, they are one of my favorite couples.
so thank you brian and jen, for allowing me peaceful moments when i think all is lost in the world of people who get married for terrible reasons. like maybe my friend who gave her boyfriend the rings and said, "ok, i'm ready." of course, she really meant it. she'd already bought her wedding dress like a year before. or something. or like people who settle. "well, i've been with you for x number of years so...i guess we should get married."
(oh, here it comes.)
here's the deal. get married because you are passionate. passionate about your soon-to-be-spouse. passionate about your lives joining together. passionate about working hard to make your marriage successful. because it is work. for me, it is the most rewarding work i can imagine. but it's work. and there will be a lot of head-shaking. and moderate amounts of yelling. i was reading in a magazine about how it is almost miraculous how two people can blend their lives together so that neither one's life is completely lost in the others. (does that make sense?) this is how i like to think of it. i met ben when i was 22 and he was 21. we each lived over 20 years without knowing each other. having totally different experiences. and families. and relationships. and all of a sudden we are thrown together at the mercy of the universe to adapt and compromise and WORK. and i can tell you that the night we met i knew we would be married. i can also tell you that on our first date i told him i'd named our children. not because i'm crazy (although i admittedly am) but because i just knew. and hence my elitism when it comes to couples who settle. there are freakin like a bazillion people in the world. if you're not SURE if the person you're with is 'the one' then move on! because if they were the one, you'd be sure. from, just about, minute one. why waste time, a wedding, your life, on someone you could just shrug your shoulders about?? love is about PASSION, people. it's about a unique bond. for goodness sakes...
now for the apology.
this rant is more for me than anyone else. actually, the people it's most likely for will never know about this blog. (phew, right?) but poor ben has had to hear this rant like...i don't know...a lot. so i'm putting it down in words on here. to say what i mean and mean what i say. and to, hopefully, get it out of my brain so i can do some real writing! a spring cleaning of sorts...in january.
so good night, sunday. i will rest upon your starry breezes and wait for your return.
p.s. if you happen to be getting married on the 5th of this coming september, you are soon to join the ranks of 'emily's favorite married couples.' in case you were worried :)
of note, we were lucky enough to meet up with the carvers on saturday for some casual wine tasting out in temecula. could it have been a prettier day? most likely not. it was gorgeous. like. drop dead gorgeous. sunny and warm and not a single speck of smog in sight. (apparently alliteration is in abundance...oh, i crack myself up.) so we wine tasted, talked, laughed, etc throughout the day. i felt my spirit was a bit renewed as both brian and jen are intelligent, witty people AND are a wonderful married couple. since stupidity is so rampant these days, intelligence is like diamonds. well, in a way. a less shiny, less tangible way. and, ok, intelligence is a super dorky accessory but i'm not going there. where was i...AND they are a wonderful couple who truly love each other. there are a few of those in the world. we are lucky to have one of these said couples as close friends.
let me explain, perhaps, why this is nicest. because after spending the day together, i don't have to go on and on and on about how miserable they are, or how wrong they are for each other, or how many problems they have. at the end of the day, i say things like, they are one of my favorite couples.
so thank you brian and jen, for allowing me peaceful moments when i think all is lost in the world of people who get married for terrible reasons. like maybe my friend who gave her boyfriend the rings and said, "ok, i'm ready." of course, she really meant it. she'd already bought her wedding dress like a year before. or something. or like people who settle. "well, i've been with you for x number of years so...i guess we should get married."
(oh, here it comes.)
here's the deal. get married because you are passionate. passionate about your soon-to-be-spouse. passionate about your lives joining together. passionate about working hard to make your marriage successful. because it is work. for me, it is the most rewarding work i can imagine. but it's work. and there will be a lot of head-shaking. and moderate amounts of yelling. i was reading in a magazine about how it is almost miraculous how two people can blend their lives together so that neither one's life is completely lost in the others. (does that make sense?) this is how i like to think of it. i met ben when i was 22 and he was 21. we each lived over 20 years without knowing each other. having totally different experiences. and families. and relationships. and all of a sudden we are thrown together at the mercy of the universe to adapt and compromise and WORK. and i can tell you that the night we met i knew we would be married. i can also tell you that on our first date i told him i'd named our children. not because i'm crazy (although i admittedly am) but because i just knew. and hence my elitism when it comes to couples who settle. there are freakin like a bazillion people in the world. if you're not SURE if the person you're with is 'the one' then move on! because if they were the one, you'd be sure. from, just about, minute one. why waste time, a wedding, your life, on someone you could just shrug your shoulders about?? love is about PASSION, people. it's about a unique bond. for goodness sakes...
now for the apology.
this rant is more for me than anyone else. actually, the people it's most likely for will never know about this blog. (phew, right?) but poor ben has had to hear this rant like...i don't know...a lot. so i'm putting it down in words on here. to say what i mean and mean what i say. and to, hopefully, get it out of my brain so i can do some real writing! a spring cleaning of sorts...in january.
so good night, sunday. i will rest upon your starry breezes and wait for your return.
p.s. if you happen to be getting married on the 5th of this coming september, you are soon to join the ranks of 'emily's favorite married couples.' in case you were worried :)
posted by emily b. at
11:05 PM
2 Comments:
I wasn't TOO worried.....maybe a little. ;)
hahaha, yeah right :)
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